Scary Mommy published a fun piece about the science behind having dad do the bedtime story. Go ahead, read it by clicking here.
And whether you are a mommy or a daddy, enjoy the bedtime story. Or, the nap time story.
It is slow going getting common perceptions to shift from the inaccurate. If a belief is deeply held, people tend towards confirmation bias. That is, they interpret the world in such a way as to see what they expect to see. When it comes to dads, we have been given a great many images and concepts that insinuate the primacy of mothers and the fragility of fathers' commitment to their children
Nothing could be further from the truth. Dads are devoted, like moms. Dads want to be with their children. If we observe significant amounts of separation of dads from their children, we need to look into that. It appears that ETR (Education, Training and Research) is opening up these questions... take a look at this article they published. They have done a great deal of work in the areas of the sexual and reproductive health of young people and it is gratifying to observe that they are looking at young fathers with a desire to understand, rather than assume and judge.
Please, read this and listen to the Latino USA piece including in this link.
The young woman featured in this story went to extraordinary lengths to show us to our ourselves. I know it's Washington state, and not NM, but I think we can all see how relevant this is to us here in NM.
If we have positive expectations for our young people, ALL of our young people, we can improve outcomes. Even if they have had a child. ESPECIALLY if they have had child. Imagine what we can do if we have positive expectations AND we offer resources designed to support them (not blame).
The New York Times published this article titled "Why Fathers Leave Their Children" and it brings up some interesting ideas, not the least of which is the recognition that most absent fathers didn't simply make a callous decision to abandon their child one day. The separation between fathers and their children is typically a process. A process that is painful and wrought with disappointment and self doubt.
While the author, Mr. Brooks, resorts to some simplistic remedies by the end of the article, his illustration of how separation can occur, and his avoidance of putting blame squarely on mom OR dad, are refreshing takes.
Thanks for the effort Mr. Brooks, and thanks for caring NYTimes.
Johnny is interviewed by Tom Trowbridge. They talk about the importance of fathers and the very supportive relationship that FathersNM has with New Mexico Men's Wellness.
These partners are joining together to feature art from many Santa fe artists, all on skateboard decks. And some of the proceeds of this show will benefit FathersNM's FUTURE MEN PROJECT! Check out the opening of Skateopolis on June 2nd - 6pm.
Thanks to the organizers;